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TALK ABOUT THE PLACE YOU ARE ON THE DATE:
Have you ever been here (the movie theatre, coffee shop or other setting the two of you are in) before?
(At the movies:) What do you think they put in that buttery topping anyway?
(At the movies:) So have you seen any other of (the movie's star) films? Which ones? Which ones did you like or not like?
(At a restaurant:) Your sandwich looks really good, what's in it?
(At a coffee shop:) So what's the difference between cappuccino and frappuccino anyways?
TALK ABOUT THE GUY YOU'RE ON THE DATE WITH:
Have you always lived in (name of your town or city)? How do you like it here? (Or if they say no:) Where did you live before this? What was it like there? How does this place compare with that one?
Do you ever wish you lived somewhere else?
Does the rest of your family live nearby? (Parents, grandparents, aunts, uncles?)
Do you get along well with your family?
What do you like most about this area?
Do you plan on staying here, or are you going to move away for/after college?
Have you visited the local (park, shopping center)? (Talk about the special attractions of your town.)
TALK ABOUT LIKES AND DISLIKES:
What kind of movies do you like? What is the worst movie you ever saw? Who is your favorite actor/actress? What do you like about them?
What is your favorite TV show? What is your least favorite?
Did you catch the Academy Awards, (or that new show, or the game, etc.) last night?
What kind of music do you enjoy? Who is your favorite performer/group/band? Who do you think is the hottest this year? Do you think they will still be next year? Who do you think is the most over-hyped?
BRING UP HYPOTHETICAL QUESTIONS:
If you could hang out with any celebrity for a whole day, which famous person would you choose?
If you knew you would be stranded on a desert island for a year, what three things would you bring with you?
Ideas For A Date:
Go to a Movie: Inviting someone to a movie is fairly safe. It is probably the #1 first date. You can let your date choose the film, or have one in mind when you ask him out. You could also check out the "second-run" movie scene, especially if you live in a larger city. Most cities have a small theater that plays foreign or classic films, and some even run festivals of cartoons or funny TV commercials from around the world..
Go Out for Dinner: It's a classic date, but it's not as foolproof as it sounds. First, there's the opportunity for spilling things and not knowing you have cheese stuck in your teeth. Also, dinner out means that you are going to have to think of something to talk about for an hour or two, which can seem like a looooong time if the conversation stalls.
Go to a Dance: High schools are always having dances, so you can invite your crush to go with you to one. Dances are great for getting close and cuddly with your crush, finding out if they have the same tastes in music and you, and hanging out in a sort of "clubby" environment.
Sporty Dates for TWO:
Play tennis: Rent racquets and balls at a local community center or hit the public courts.
Go horse-back riding: Look in the local Yellow Pages to find stables that do trail rides, or go horseback riding on the beach.
Go rolling-blading: Rent blades if you don't have them and spend the day on a nice path... just be sure to wear your safety gear!
Nature walk: Check out the trails at local parks and bring along lunch in a backpack. Stop and have a picnic when you feel like a rest.
Running/Jogging: If you both work out regularly, why not team up!
Charity Walks/Bike Rides: Lots of charities have charity walks or rides. You and your date can collect money together and then go on the walk together. You'll feel great about yourselves, and each other!
Sporty Dates with a GROUP:
Go bowling: Play guys against girls, or compete couple against couple.
Roller-skating: Hit the local rink to rent skates and work your moves. Maybe you'll get to hold hands!
Miniature golf: Get him to "show you" how to putt, it's a good way to get his arms around you!
Ultimate Frisbee: All you need is a Frisbee, some friends and a park or lawn for fun.
CITY DATES:
Go to the Museum: Most cities and towns have museums: art museums, science museums, history museums, etc. If you and your crush like this sort of thing, a museum can be a great place to go on a date.
Visit the Zoo: If your town has a zoo, it can be a really fun place to go on a date. Figure out which animal your crush reminds you of!
Concerts: Besides blockbuster concert events, don't forget to check local listings for free or cheap summer concerts in your area, or see a local band at an all-ages show) Go to a Book/Poetry Reading: Bookstores and libraries often invite local authors in to do poetry or book-reading sessions. Check those places, or look in the newspaper, for times.
MORE OUTDOOR ACTIVITIES:
Star gazing: Set up a cute little area outside with a blanket and lemonade, kinda like a picnic but at night and sit by each other and gaze at the stars.Romantic!
Amusement parks and water parks: These are great places for dates, because the wild activities get your adrenalin rushing and you feel adventurous. There are also lots of chances for grabbing your guy, on the water slide or in the haunted house!
Kissing Lesson:
PUCKER UP!
First of all, don't worry if you are not an experienced kisser. Guys can't tell if you have kissed before. Since everyone kisses differently, you always "start from scratch" when you kiss a new person. Plus, in most cases a guy will be so thrilled that he's locking lips with you, he won't be judging the way you kiss! So never be embarrassed that you're not a kissing pro. Kissing is easy - and fun - when you know a few basic rules. Let's move onto them now...
Let's start with your kissing equipment: your lips and mouth. Keep your lips soft and kissable by applying lip balm every day. It's especially important to keep your lips moisturized in the winter months, when drier air can make them feel scaly. Don't neglect your breath either. Good breath is one of the most important ingredients in a good kiss. Keep yours fresh by brushing and flossing twice a day. Keep sugarfree mints handy in your purse or pocket, for situations when you need to freshen up fast.
When it comes to the actual kiss, keep your lips soft and gentle. Think of kissing something very tender. You can practice on the back of your hand! There are long kisses, and there are kisses made up of a whole bunch of short, gentle little kisses. Go with the flow, and let your partner take the lead if you are not sure which way the kiss is going. When you are in the middle of the kiss, concentrate on feeling the friction between your lips and his, the electricity when the surface of your lips and his match up, and how each of you are moving your lips in rhythm with each otehr. Getting out of your head and focusing totally on the physical sensation of the kiss can add some real power and sensuality to your kissing.
Keep in mind that using your tongue is not required for kissing... if you are not experienced, save the French kissing (kissing using your tongue) for later. Lots of the greatest kisses are all about the lips. When you are comfortable kissing your partner, experiment with different ways to taste and nuzzle his lips. Nibble his lower lip lightly (DON'T bite), caress his lips by brushing your lips back and forth against them, lick the outside corners of his mouth, and try using different pressures and movements to gently explore your partner's lips. Notice how good his lips feel against yours, and try different things to make them feel even better!
As for your eyes, keep them closed once you are into the kiss. You might want to keep them open until you have actual lip contact, so you don't miss and end up with a mouthful of ear. But when the kiss has started, eyes closed is the way to go. It can really help you shut out the world and focus only on the kiss. Also, kissing with your eyes open can weird out a guy, if he happens to catch you doing it. A valuable Jellybean tip: guys who kiss with their eyes open are usually thinking of something else besides you. If you catch your partner kissing with eyes wide, be careful - he might not be good boyfriend material.
That's all you really need to know about kissing... except for one more, very important reminder. ENJOY THE KISS. Staying in the moment and enjoying the experience has a lot to do with what makes a memorable kiss. The best way to kill a kiss is to dwell on how you're doing, concentrate too hard on getting the "right" kissing technique down, or let your mind wander to what your partner thinks about you. The single most important thing to remember about kissing is to BE IN THE MOMENT and enjoy the kiss for itself. This is what it's all about... the simplest and greatest of pleasures, the soft friction, the tender wetness, the heat of his face so close to yours... kissing is great. Possibly the greatest. So kiss with confidence... and have FUN!
French Kissing:*A peach is a peach a plum is a plum a kiss ain't a kiss without some tounge*
The most important thing to remember: When you want to French kiss a guy, first start off with some nice, slow closed-mouth kisses, then some open-mouthed no-tongue kisses. This gets your lips warmed up and lets you get into the joy and closeness of kissing. So relax and take your time before moving on to anything involving your tongue. It's really important to go slow and ease into it when you're going to French kiss.
Once you're ready to start using your tongue, it's best to give the boy you're kissing a signal that you're going to do it. Do this by opening your mouth a little bit and maybe darting your tongue out just a bit. Give his lips a tiny lick with your tongue, just a bit, so that he knows what's coming up. If he's into French kissing you, he'll probably open his lips a little and maybe lick your lips back a bit. This is good! It means you have a "green light" to keep on going.
It's nice to just do this kind of light tonguing for a bit. It can be very exciting to tease each other's lips with your tongues, sharing each other's breath. Whatever you do, do NOT shove your tongue right into his mouth! That will feel gross to him (guys rate it the number one thing girls do to turn them off while kissing) and it's way too aggressive. If he gets over-excited and puts his tongue way in your mouth, gently pull back from the kiss for a second and start again, doing your light tongue touches so he gets the message he needs to take it slower.
When you want to get a little deeper into French kissing, all you have to do is just extend your tongue a little more into your mouth. Basically you'll be doing exactly what you've been doing, but just deeper. Use a little more of your tongue, and let the kisses last a little longer. The key to a great French kiss is to keep your mouth nice and soft, and to be really gentle and relaxed.
While you're French kissing, it may help to think of your and his tongue dancing together. Keep them moving in light, smooth movements. Lick the inside of the boy's lips, run your tongue over his gums on top of his teeth and below, pull your tongue away and slip it back gently. Make little circles around the tip of his tongue with your tongue. Do what feels natural. Remember French kissing is about cooperation. It's all about your tongues fluttering around together in a sensual dance. It's not one person shoving their tongue further into the other's person's mouth!
If you're kissing a boy who has more experience at French kissing than you do, you may find you're keeping your tongue a bit back and he has his tongue in your mouth more. That's okay, but try to relax and get more equal movement (you tongue tasting and exploring his mouth AND his tasting yours) as you go along. Just keep your mouth soft and open and relax so you can fully enjoy all the kissing that's going on!
When you really like what the boy kissing you is doing, if a movement he makes feels good, encourage him by giving a little moan. He'll know you like it and do more of it! You can judge how he likes the kissing by the sounds he makes too. If he makes a groan when you do a certain thing with your tongue, you can be sure he likes it.
