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Advanced Flirting:
The Bend and Snap- When your around your guy, pretend to drop something like a pen, and just bend...and SNAP! Voila!
Whisper - For advanced flirters, this is one of the all-time classic flirting tricks. When you're in a conversation with a guy, ask him if you can tell him a secret, then lean in to his ear and whisper a sincere compliment ("You have really good taste in clothes").
Drop It-probably used it. There's a reason it's a classic though - this flirting staple hardly ever fails! Walk past a guy you like, making eye contact with him and giving him a nice smile. Then just when you're passing him, drop something(liek a pen). If he's at all interested in you, he'll bend down to help you pick it up- and voila! There's your opportunity to start chatting.
Ask for His Help - Creating opportunities for your crush to "help" you will give him a confidence boost and make him feel more comfortable and assured around you. Pick something you're sure he's good at, like helping you practice a part in a play, showing you how to stretch before running, getting your car started, or solving a problem.
Repeat His Name - Repeating a guy's name in conversation sends a message directly to his subconscious that you are interested in him. Don't go overboard ("Yes Billy, I agree, Billy, that the mall, Billy, is very fun, Billy!")!!! Saying his name a few times through the conversation is enough - and a very effective flirting technique.
Ask Questions that Show You "Get" Him - This is an advanced flirting move that, done right, can make a guy think you were made for him. The trick is to let him know you see something in him that no one else understands. To do that, you've got to guess how he sees himself inside, which is usually different from what everyone notices about him. So aim for complimenting the opposite. Is he a jock? Tell him how sensitive or spiritual he seems. Is he a dreamy, intellectual type? Tell him the first thing you noticed about him were his strong arms. Do this flirting maneuver right, and he'll be eating out of your hand!
Give the Head to Toe Look - When a guy you like is walking towards you or standing across the room, give him a look all over from head to toe. Then flash him your best smile! There's no mistaking this means you think he's fine all over.
Use the Over the Shoulder Look - If your crush is standing behind you, look over your shoulder- and smile at him. This flirtatious move is always a signal you are interested.
Have Something New To Do - At a party, be the girl who gets everyone involved in an activity (like dancing) or a game (like "Truth or Dare"). Guys like girls who take charge in social situations. You'll seem like a lot of fun by doing this.
The Wink - At a party, in a group of people or even at school, look over at the guy you like, smile and give him a quick wink! Just be sure to follow the Primary Rule of Winking: W.O.O.("Wink Only Once"). Winking once is a cute way to signal interest, and he'll go crazy wondering if you really did it - a good thing. But if you wink more than once, it looks like you got something stuck in your eye!
Give Him a Nickname - The goal of this flirting move is to create an inside joke between you and your crush. Inside jokes are great for creating a bond and making it easier to connect when you see him again. Does he drink a lot of cola? Call him "sodapop." Does he talk about his car constantly? Call him "hot rod." Make sure it's something flattering or funny.
Use Props - Props - interesting items that you carry with you - are great for starting conversations with cute guys. The best props are interesting enough that guys will not be able to help themselves from coming over to talk to you about them. Great props include a T-shirt with a funny message, a really funky pair of shoes, a fabulous scent, unusual sunglasses, bright neon lipstick or nail polish, interesting jewelry, a great hat, or a cool magazine or book.
Flirting Basics:
1) Be Open - Approach everyone you meet with a smile. Let your face show that you're interested in what people are saying. Let your natural enthusiasm shine through. Look people in the face and show them you are happy to meet them.
2) Be Honest - Nobody likes a phony. People can spot insincere praise and faked interest right away. Just being yourself is your best bet for flirting success. If you are open to others, they will be able to sense it.
3) Be Spontaneous - Don't think too hard about what you're going to say - just really listen to what the other person is saying and let yourself respond naturally. Don't worry about what might happen next - live for the moment!
4) Smile - You can't hear this often enough! A smile makes you look friendly, confident and approachable. People smile at people who smile! So smile! It's contagious!
5) Make Eye Contact - When talking to a guy, make sure you have good eye contact. You don't have to stare! But don't look all around the room, either, or he'll think you're looking for someone more interesting to hang out with. Let him know with your eyes that he is the person you would most like to be talking to.
6) Listen- You have two ears and one mouth because you should listen twice as much as you speak! Your flirting partner will be drawn to you if you master this simple skill. Everyone loves to be listened to.
7) Ask Questions - Show you're interested in what he's saying. If he tells you he plays hockey, ask what position. If he says he saw a movie, as which one. You get it! Guys love it when they know you like what he's saying(wouldn't you)!
8) Use Innocent Touch - When talking to a guy, lightly touch his arm when you're making a point or laughing at something he has said. Don't overdo it, just a few times in a conversation is enough to send the message that you like him. If you have chemistry with him, he'll figure it out fast just from the touch of your fingertips.
9) Don't Argue - Playful banter is fine - it shows off your sense of humor and can help create a bond with a guy you're talking to. But don't try to show off by insisting on your point, or you'll be remembered as "don't date" material.
10) Be Confident - People are drawn to other people who have confidence. It's all about walking with your head held high and knowing that if a guy doesn't respond to your flirting, it's his loss, not yours. Know you are a catch and you'll send that signal to others.
Does He Like You?Here's Some Clues:
-He might start talking loudly in your presence or start treating you as one of the guys. (Yes, this is a weird way to show he likes you, but it's one of the most common and strongest signals!)
-He might also become very shy and mumble when he speaks to you. Then again, he could behave like a real Casanova, praising you for no apparent reason and straining hard to hold a sustained intelligent conversation (often ending in him asking for your phone number or for a date)
-If he is acting more flirtatious toward you than toward other people at the same event
-If his friends are paying attention to you when he isn't around (often a clue that this guy talked to his or her friends about you).
-If he always seems to be around (especially if you get the "instinct" that he's there because of you)
-If he is smiling while listening to you, and seems to be listening especially "actively"
-If he seems to look into your eyes a little longer than normally.
-If he remembers stuff you said before and brings it up again (asking questions about something you mentioned in the past ) - shows he's interested in you
Testing Your Suspicions:
If you think a guy likes you (trust your gut instinct, girls) but you can't be totally sure, try this: Give him your best smile. If he smiles back, or his face suddenly lights up, tah dah! He likes you. If he starts sweating and looks all flustered, he likes you even more. If his smile is the polite kind, or if he frowns or looks away, that's a bad sign that maybe he isn't interested in you after all.
Hook Up With Your Guy Friend:
-Don’t just blurt out your feelings. Think about when and how you want to let him know how you feel. Usually, it’s much better to show a guy friend how you feel, by flirting and being sweet to him, than to tell him in words.
-Find opportunities to do things you enjoy together. Since you’re already friends, you have some idea of what activities and events he is interested in. Sports (playing or watching), movies, video games, cooking, chess, photography, shopping - whatever floats your boat. Find ways to do things that you both like doing, together!
-Show him you’re thinking about him on special occasions - and show him you remember what occasions are special to him. Send him a sweet e-card on his birthday. Buy him a chocolate heart when his team wins a big game. Thoughtful little notes and messages can show him a more romantic side of you, and get him thinking about you a little differently.
-Give him a hint. When you and your crush/friend have five minutes alone, tell him you had a dream that you two were boyfriend and girlfriend. Say that the dream was really happy and felt so natural... and see what he says. If his reaction is negative (he says "as if" or "that's sick!"), then you know to back off. Save your pride - just laugh and say something like "I know, it was the stupidest dream!" But if he blushes, wants to hear more about the dream, laughs nervously or seems flattered by what you said, it's a sign he is open to the idea of dating you. In that case, say to him "maybe we should go on a date and see what happens?"
-Check your local newspaper or 'zines for upcoming events you can attend together. Look for something he’ll be interested in - maybe a concert, a local fair, and so on. Tell him you saw that(whatever the event is)is happening on a certain day and you thought he might want to go. Would he like to go with you? The trick is to make it sound like you're going to go anyway.
-Take a chance on love. One of the biggest fears for many girls in asking out a friend is "ruining the relationship." Get over it. If he says no, do you really believe he won't be your friend anymore? If he’s your real friend, it might be weird if he says no, but he’ll most likely be flattered and get over the awkwardness. Besides if you never ask, you might never know if he felt the same but was too shy to say it!
-If he backs off and acts awkward after you ask him out, give him time to get over it. Distract yourself with other friends, and pick up your friendship again when he seems ready.
-Don't feel bad or think you were stupid to ask him if he ends up saying no. You've been really gutsy to try it, which is quite cool. Plus you have let him know how you feel about him, honestly and openly, and that is never a bad thing. Now that he knows you like him, he’ll be thinking about you differently. Sometimes it takes some time for that to sink in... he could end up turning around and asking you out when he feels more ready!
-Never, ever ask someone out more than twice if they say no. That will just makes your friend feel uncomfortable, and he’ll feel like you’re not listening to him. This can make it hard to go back to normal in the friendship.
-Don’t tell everyone you’re going to ask him out. For one thing, if he says no, you have all those people to tell and that would be totally embarrassing. For another thing, you don’t want him to find out that everyone knew how you felt about him before he knew, because that cheapens the emotion. Tell your best friend, but until you know his answer, keep this situation pretty private.
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